The first adoptee blogger here, Jupe, coined an apt phrase she used to describe the frequency adoption-related bits and pieces of ephemera would drift into her realm, then stick for a while: adoption velcro.

All of us experience this to some degree ... well, all of us who deposit time and energy into the awareness bank and keep our vigilance accounts topped up. I can, however, still be surprised by how often adoption comes at me from what... more

Another old broad has adopted an infant, and it's making news. Considering how many of us there are doing it these days ... adopting at an older age is what I mean by 'doing it", as I'm sure you know ... you might think this would pass unnoticed, or at least uncommented-upon, but that's not the case. Headlines are shouting the news from the rooftops, and ... more

Continued from here, where we've been talking about potential dangers of crowding too many unrelated concepts under the adoption umbrella.

CFF's (Children First Foundation) Benefit Committee includes leaders of the New York State Right to Life Committee, the Connecticut Right to Life Committee, the New Jersey Family Policy Council and the Family Institute of Connecticut, organizations that support CFF's efforts to promote Adoption and Safe Havens as positive, compassionate and life-saving choices that deserve greater public understanding, appreciation and... more

I've come across something that has me pondering.

(Yeah, I know. What else is new?)

This story about a "Gala Concert for Adoption" to be held at Lincoln Center in April caught my eye, and on first glance it looked pretty good. I then read down a paragraph and found that the point of the concert is directly linked to Baby Safe Havens.

... "Gala Concert for Adoption" is part of a national effort to raise greater awareness about the important "Safe Haven Laws" that have been enacted in 47 states during the month of April so that, as stated by Tim Jaccard, "not one single baby... more

I've been having them. Down days. Days when everything I touch turns to waste matter, not one single thing works the way it should, and piles of little things add up to an unassailable mountain range of huge proportions that defeat me with their mere presence.

Every day has been starting the same, with a frustrating battle I lose between me and the cyber-power that rules these blogs. Slow loading leads to not being able to upload photos at all, to having nothing work, to having me screaming, to tearing my hair out, to wanting to never blog again.

An electrical storm on Sunday made things ever so much worse by knocking out power to everything for hours, then having lingering... more

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I started to find that tone in the word that now defines the parties to adoption: triad.

This is what I wrote in the preface to the book:

The core group, essential to every adoption, is commonly called a "Triad."

Triad is the word used in the Adoption Community for the intimate grouping of child / PBP / PAP (or after adoption, child / birth parents / adoptive parents) that has in past times been known as the triangle. This term is no longer in favor.

Yes, a triangle has three sides, but that's the problem in using it to convey... more

While looking around this morning for something completely unrelated, I found that the book I wrote is now available. It's an e-book written for the company that does these blogs, and it's for sale now in the Adoption Shop.

It's called, "The Adoption.com Guide to US Infant Adoption", and writing... more

Faith, on the Hoping to Adopt Blog, recently asked the question, "What does your child call his birthmother?". Certainly not the first time the topic has come up on the blogs, it always gets people talking. I still chuckle when I recall Coley writing about her son calling her his "burp mom" ... and getting downright possessive about... more

A story out of the UK reports the results of a survey that shows how today's young adults are more dependent on their parents than we ever were.

Two thirds of the over-50s questioned said they received no financial help from their parents when they were in their 20s - but 64% of them help out their adult offspring.

Half of parents have paid towards their child's first car, spending an average... more

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And now ... the gains. African Adoption Blogger, Holly Richardson recently wrote about her daughter, Rachel, describing the events that led her to the family through a disruption and how wonderful it's turned out to be:

... my heart just did flips - she was SO cute and I wanted... more