K is staying with an old friend this evening while Hubby and I go out for a movie.

We saw one a few weeks ago when my sister was in town and I haven’t laughed so hard in a long time. So I’ve gotten the bug to go again. (see previous post about last movie).

So my friend, whom I’ve known for over twelve, (wait, it must be fifteen years already), is also ‘older’. At least ‘older' when it comes to having a toddler around.

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So far, motherhood, well, it's been the best decision of my life…..

After I pretty much decided I wanted to be a Mom, Hubby got on board. (He pretty much figured that what I wanted I’d get anyway,) so….

I researched all around the internet, and made a call to our local DHS office, and discovered that foster – adoption went through private agencies here in our... more

I used to tell time by my watch and my calendar. If I wanted to remember when Hubby and I went to that great jazz concert in the park, or to my parent’s home, I’d look at a calendar and try to remember.

Together we’d pour over the months saying, I think it was June, - last year, what were we wearing? Was it hot yet? Wait, maybe it was this week, in July, I think the flowers were all in full bloom. Oh, I think they were pansies, maybe it was June. Or maybe late September?

Now It’s all K time.

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I rarely wear makeup. Occasionally I’ll put on a bit of lipstick, but the days of putting on my face in the morning are pretty much done. I’ve never been a huge makeup person anyway. Back in my twenties I would put on a face every morning, but it’s been years since I’ve done that. All my stuff is in the back of my cabinet and eventually dries up and cakes and when I’m ready to use some it’s not good anymore!

Sometimes I think about putting some eye stuff on, but the mascara rubs my contacts the wrong way,... more

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....My friends had no idea I was interested in adopting. When I finally got around to sharing with one friend, she exclaimed "You adopt? Why whatever for?" hummm.. not exactly a vote of confidence....

After my friend asked why I wanted to adopt I started to think why.

Why would a successful career women in her 40’s want to ‘give it all up’ and start a family?

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.........I can remember distinctly the exact moment I wanted to be a mother……

My husband and I were busy with career, traveling and partying and, well, I just forgot to have kids.

I never heard my biological clock ticking and now, in my forties, my alarm was ringing, and ringing loudly!

It had something to do with 911. That's September 11 2001.... more

I can remember distinctly the exact moment I wanted to be a mother.

It was early one morning, late August, 2002. (I could probably find the exact date, but can’t be bothered - suffice it to say it was probably a Wednesday, as I used to take long walks every Wednesday).

I was walking along our country mountain road, and the leaves where just starting to turn a bit. Autumn was coming early that year. It was cool for August - in the high 60's maybe, and it was mid - late morning. Off to my right... more

Sandra (when I grow up I will learn how to write and use punctuation correctly like she does) my esteemed co-blogger wrote in her bio that she is convinced 50 is the new 30. Being almost 50 I have found that I have a vested interest in the truth of this phrase, but I struggle with its meaning.

My best friend of 30 years, Jackie, and I have some pretty mixed feelings about this 50 is the new 30 thing. On the one hand, we understand how it is communicates a bold and positive statement with a slightly humorous bent. On the other hand, for some silly reason, we resist its intended message.... more

It appears that “Attachment Disorder” as we know it today first established a toehold in the US in the early 1980’s. It is a name given to a syndrome first observed among some Romanian orphans who had been adopted into the West and who had experienced severe emotional deprivation. These children had difficulty or were unable to form attachments in early life. I remember seeing footage of the orphanages and children, it was appalling at best and completely heart wrenching, which contributed to the popularity in Westerners adopting these children. But these were the most extreme of circumstances.

Attachment... more

It seems to me that if parents spent less time researching negative and controversial issues they feel their adopted children possess and spent more time just parenting them as they would biological chidden, we’d all be a lot better off.

The amount of research parents do that pertains to adoption is simply astounding; when to tell them, how to tell them, attachment, non-attachment, race, keeping them in touch with their culture, blah blah blah...

Why can’t we simply parent our children and not focus on extraneous issues? If parents spent half as much time playing with your kids or reading to them or helping them do a puzzle, as they do on the internet nitpicking every little... more