Looking at the grandparents the words "plain old tired" would not have come to mind in describing them. But even they admitted that was exactly what they were. This brings up a point often made by one of our regular commenters on our blog. We like to call her "MM" for short.

MM has written us that she is opposed to older parents adopting very young childen for a number of reasons and one of them is that she doesn't believe that we are able to keep up with our kids as they grow up. I have disagreed with her on the point and we have respectfully gone back and forth on the matter. But I... more

I sat in on two meetings last week that gave me a reality check about older parenting. Each of the meetings was held at a social service agency and the goal was to address the behavioral acting out of a teenager in the home. Each family was at risk for out-of-home placement; not so much because of the severity of the child's behavior, but because of the chronicity and persistence. In each instance the child in question was a teenager and in each instance the parents involved were the child's biological grandparents. They were grandparents who by today's standards, easily, could... more

Many of us older moms grew up defending (and maybe even marching) for various causes, including feminism. We grew up in a time when we may have been rebelling against or pushing even further the causes of the day.

Our moms and grandmothers made it possible for the women today to choose working, or SAHM or both or something completely different. We were sure that life could be both fair and even for both sexes.

In my twenties girlfriends and I discussed the differences between girls and boys. We decided that children should... more

Enough about Madonna already ….but….

Did you see this?

Madonna, 48, could even be rejected because of her age as guidelines recommend no more than a 45-year gap between child and foster parent.

Madonna and husband Guy must go through the homestudy process before they are allowed to bring the child back into England, and I guess this means did they not already bring the child back?

All the news is confusing, but according to this article from the Mirror, the UK is requiring the couple to go through normal adoption procedures including the paperwork, homestudy and interviews.

British adoption workers apparently hold fast to the... more

If you've been following my personal story, you'll know that we have started the process to adopt a second child.

It isn't an easy decision. My Hubby feels too old to start again, and my daughter and I are so attached it feels a bit risky to add another to the mix.

I'm not the only one who feels this way of course; all types of moms, adoptive, bio, step, older, teenage, all have to make decisions about adding to a family.

How do you know if it is right for you?

We don't... more

Thinking of adopting from Korea?

The South Korea adoption program is the oldest organized international adoption program operating in the U.S. In 2005, U.S. citizens adopted approximately 1,630 children from South Korea.

You can adopt from Korea up to forty five years of age.

Some restrictions may be lifted for older children or special needs children, so check with your agency.

Mo from the Korea Aoption Blog was nice enough to forward me ... more

As older adoptive parents, we are often thinking about adopting older children. As a rule of thumb, some agencies prefer the age spread of the children and the youngest adoptive parents be no more than forty years. - Mom is forty eight, she could adopt an eight year old.

Although we are seeing this rule broken more and more as parents in their fifties adopt newborns, there are certainly parents who do not want to care for young children needing 24/7 supervision.

As a foster mom... more

I’ve been thinking a lot about Dr. G.’s post on weight and energy.

Being smaller, gives you more energy - plain and simple. Eating healthy means living longer – or at least helps you feel better.

I really should loose about ten – or maybe 20 pounds.

I’m just not motivated and I wonder why.

Actually, I know why. It’s work. It takes focus, concentration, energy.

Over the last few years... more

Our new foster agency recruitment officer just left my home. (I wrote about the first step of the licensing requirements and paperwork she brought on the fost-adopt blog)

Hubby and I are ‘thinking’ of adopting through foster care again. Hubby is fifty four, and I’ll be forty eight before we are... more

Continued from previous post .........I can remember distinctly the exact moment I wanted to be a mother……

Hubby and I were at the bar. (That’s what you do when you don’t have kids - at least we did). We were having a nice glass of red wine and some tofu spring rolls with dipping sauce.... more