Comments on: Keeping young … denial, delusion or fact? http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact Information for parents in their forties and beyond, considerations, information, adoption and parenting advice, health news and tips, adoption stories, support, links ... Sat, 14 Nov 2009 02:09:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: yoursmineourstheirs http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1697 yoursmineourstheirs Sat, 14 Mar 2009 15:32:45 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1697 My husband is 59, I'm 53. We were both married before & he had a son & daughter, now 34 & 29. I had 3 daughters, now 32, 29 & 26. We had a daughter together when I was 38, she will soon be 15.We became foster parents when all kids were married except our daughter. We got twin boys, 10 1/2 wks old. Had them a year when both bio. parents relinquished rights. Of course we adopted them. My problem is we have 11 grandkids. The oldest is 1 year older than the twins, the others are younger. I try hard to show my grandkids I love them but I feel the jealousy from my kids. I feel like I babysit all the time. I don't want my older kids to feel jealous or my boys to be neglected because I'm so tired. Does anyone else have this problem. Any suggestions? My husband is 59, I’m 53. We were both married before & he had a son & daughter, now 34 & 29. I had 3 daughters, now 32, 29 & 26. We had a daughter together when I was 38, she will soon be 15.We became foster parents when all kids were married except our daughter. We got twin boys, 10 1/2 wks old. Had them a year when both bio. parents relinquished rights. Of course we adopted them. My problem is we have 11 grandkids. The oldest is 1 year older than the twins, the others are younger. I try hard to show my grandkids I love them but I feel the jealousy from my kids. I feel like I babysit all the time. I don’t want my older kids to feel jealous or my boys to be neglected because I’m so tired. Does anyone else have this problem. Any suggestions?

]]> By: bigclan12 http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1696 bigclan12 Tue, 30 Oct 2007 22:59:44 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1696 This is so fun to connect with other "older mothers." I'm still feeling like there may be another adoption in the wind somewhere for us, but wasalso feeling like maybe I'm too old. (almost 49) Hearing about adopting in the 50 age range has given me new confidence. Thanks!:-) This is so fun to connect with other “older mothers.” I’m still feeling like there may be another adoption in the wind somewhere for us, but wasalso feeling like maybe I’m too old. (almost 49) Hearing about adopting in the 50 age range has given me new confidence. Thanks!:-)

]]> By: kjcouture http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1695 kjcouture Sat, 20 Oct 2007 17:20:08 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1695 Thanks for sharing your story. We had many similar experiences. <br /> We are 60(me) and 59(spouse) and our boys are now 8 and 9, adopted as infants in Vietnam. I was 52 when I adopted the youngest. I did fleetingly think "God, I'm 52! What am I doing here!" until I met my son's birthmom the day before the adoption was completed. She was 19 and could have been my birth daughter. She was very sad and happy at the same time; she wrote a letter thanking us for taking care of her son, knowing he was going to a good home after seeing pictures of our family and home. <br /> They sure keep us busy. I am now happy I am retired so I have more time to be with them and help them through difficult issues that come up, especially around adoption. Thanks for sharing your story. We had many similar experiences.
We are 60(me) and 59(spouse) and our boys are now 8 and 9, adopted as infants in Vietnam. I was 52 when I adopted the youngest. I did fleetingly think “God, I’m 52! What am I doing here!” until I met my son’s birthmom the day before the adoption was completed. She was 19 and could have been my birth daughter. She was very sad and happy at the same time; she wrote a letter thanking us for taking care of her son, knowing he was going to a good home after seeing pictures of our family and home.
They sure keep us busy. I am now happy I am retired so I have more time to be with them and help them through difficult issues that come up, especially around adoption.

]]> By: Lisa http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1694 Lisa Mon, 15 Oct 2007 05:38:11 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1694 I'm so friggin jealous that Cj ordinarily doesn't scream when she goes to doctors. Ella can be heard for miles before the doctor (a very sweet one) even touches her. I think all the other doctors are so relieved that they don't have her as a patient.<br /> <br /> L. I’m so friggin jealous that Cj ordinarily doesn’t scream when she goes to doctors. Ella can be heard for miles before the doctor (a very sweet one) even touches her. I think all the other doctors are so relieved that they don’t have her as a patient.

L.

]]> By: John http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1693 John Wed, 10 Oct 2007 20:40:40 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1693 They make you younger? Does that make Cindy Bodie less than 10? I have always blamed the boys for my grey hair. If its not them, I have to be old, and thats not nice.<br /> <br /> What a great doc. Hope you stick with her. <br /> <br /> I broke my collar bone dirt biking three years ago. Had a bone doc who was kind enough not to say 'What is someone your age doing riding dirt bikes?'. He is a buddy for life. They make you younger? Does that make Cindy Bodie less than 10? I have always blamed the boys for my grey hair. If its not them, I have to be old, and thats not nice.

What a great doc. Hope you stick with her.

I broke my collar bone dirt biking three years ago. Had a bone doc who was kind enough not to say ‘What is someone your age doing riding dirt bikes?’. He is a buddy for life.

]]> By: Sunbonnet Sue http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1692 Sunbonnet Sue Wed, 10 Oct 2007 16:09:34 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1692 yes, I would have given her a big hug and kiss. don't really fit in well here, but oh well, never have! yes, I would have given her a big hug and kiss. don’t really fit in well here, but oh well, never have!

]]> By: Sandra Hanks Benoiton http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1691 Sandra Hanks Benoiton Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:39:01 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1691 Kissed her! But that is what you do here. There's lots of kissing in Seychelles. Kissed her! But that is what you do here. There’s lots of kissing in Seychelles.

]]> By: Sunbonnet Sue http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact/comment-page-1#comment-1690 Sunbonnet Sue Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:13:37 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/10/keeping-young-denial-delusion-or-fact#comment-1690 what a great doc. Hope you shook her hand! what a great doc. Hope you shook her hand!

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