Recently I wrote my Ten Reasons being an Older Parent is a Good Idea. ¬†Now, ten days after my respite vacation, I’m still exhausted. ¬†So in keeping with my mood du jour, here are 10 cautions for those considering “late in life” parenthood:
- Things do change after 50. ¬†I get tired more easily and need more naps. ¬†Maybe that’s an advantage!
- I have to constantly remind myself: ¬†Little kids are supposed to be loud.
- I have to dress like a mom, not a Grandma. ¬†No knit pants or house dresses just yet.
- I work harder at staying healthy than most of my age-peers. ¬†I need to be strong and fit because I work hard (physically) every day.
- Your kids have “older” parents. ¬†My little ones get fewer playdate invitations than my Bigs did because the other kids parents don’t necessarily see us as their peers.
- Our own parents need more of our care and time. ¬†Balancing these needs may be challenging a few years hence.
- People think I”m their grandma at times. ¬†That may work to my advantage too!
- I have less patience than I once did. ¬†Knowing I have less patience does help me try harder.
- Some of our kids may not get to know their grandparents. ¬†Both sides of our family seem to be blessed with long life but you never know.
- The cost of child-rearing will definitely delay Dear Hubby’s retirement a while.
In the end, all these “negatives” have a positive twist, but they should be considered. ¬†We talked about these things before we took on our little 3-pack but I must admit, they are coming to light more and more now that hubby is over 50 too.
I don’t regret at all our decision to adopt the 3 little ones. But at 53, when I am tired and not bouncing back quickly, I do have to remind myself of that from time to time. ¬†What cautions would you add to the list?