Comments on: The 1960s, “The Girls Who Went Away”, and me: last http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7 Information for parents in their forties and beyond, considerations, information, adoption and parenting advice, health news and tips, adoption stories, support, links ... Mon, 15 Feb 2010 00:28:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sandra Hanks Benoiton http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7/comment-page-1#comment-151 Sandra Hanks Benoiton Thu, 16 Nov 2006 02:58:54 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/15/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7#comment-151 Michelle, <br /> Thanks, and I think you'll get a lot out of the book. Don't be afraid.<br /> <br /> Katrina,<br /> I am so happy you think something I've written can help to build understanding. Thank you!<br /> <br /> Doc,<br /> A very good idea.<br /> <br /> Heather,<br /> Absolutely. Michelle,
Thanks, and I think you’ll get a lot out of the book. Don’t be afraid.

Katrina,
I am so happy you think something I’ve written can help to build understanding. Thank you!

Doc,
A very good idea.

Heather,
Absolutely.

]]> By: Heather Lowe http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7/comment-page-1#comment-150 Heather Lowe Thu, 16 Nov 2006 00:20:28 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/15/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7#comment-150 Dr. G. - I agree with you - someone needs to speak for them, too. And they are not less deserving of sympathy/empathy, not in my book. Dr. G. – I agree with you – someone needs to speak for them, too. And they are not less deserving of sympathy/empathy, not in my book.

]]> By: Dr. G http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7/comment-page-1#comment-149 Dr. G Wed, 15 Nov 2006 18:42:05 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/15/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7#comment-149 okay, Sandra. today, i bought...The Book. right this moment actually, i just returned from the Barnes and Noble near my house. it is laying (or is that lying? i forget which you're supposed to use for objects) on the table still in the bag. the next step...to actually *read* it. i wish i were a better writer. i think someone should tackle the same perspective of mothers whose parental rights are terminated. somehow i think that in adoption there is this category of mothers that are considered deserving of our sympathy (the young unwed mothers who "simply" got pregnant and were in some way coereced into relinquishing their children) and those who are deserving of nothing but the heartache and pain they got when their parental rights were terminated because of abuse/neglect/addiction. no one can convince me that there is not a large segment of that group that feels equally enraged, hurt, devastated about their loss. who will speak for them? who will be their Ms. Fessler? okay, Sandra. today, i bought…The Book. right this moment actually, i just returned from the Barnes and Noble near my house. it is laying (or is that lying? i forget which you’re supposed to use for objects) on the table still in the bag. the next step…to actually *read* it. i wish i were a better writer. i think someone should tackle the same perspective of mothers whose parental rights are terminated. somehow i think that in adoption there is this category of mothers that are considered deserving of our sympathy (the young unwed mothers who “simply” got pregnant and were in some way coereced into relinquishing their children) and those who are deserving of nothing but the heartache and pain they got when their parental rights were terminated because of abuse/neglect/addiction. no one can convince me that there is not a large segment of that group that feels equally enraged, hurt, devastated about their loss. who will speak for them? who will be their Ms. Fessler?

]]> By: Katrina http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7/comment-page-1#comment-148 Katrina Wed, 15 Nov 2006 16:31:04 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/15/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7#comment-148 Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this, Sandra. Part of my job is working with birthmoms helping them look at their options (parenting or placing). I work for a Catholic agency, so am not allowed to discuss birth control (women are still not in control of their choices in some settings obviously). I also have contact with women who are searching for the children they placed--many of whom placed their children during this time. I have a deeper understanding of what they must be feeling thanks to what you've written. I will be reading this book as well. Thanks again! Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this, Sandra. Part of my job is working with birthmoms helping them look at their options (parenting or placing). I work for a Catholic agency, so am not allowed to discuss birth control (women are still not in control of their choices in some settings obviously). I also have contact with women who are searching for the children they placed–many of whom placed their children during this time. I have a deeper understanding of what they must be feeling thanks to what you’ve written. I will be reading this book as well. Thanks again!

]]> By: Michelle Vandepas http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7/comment-page-1#comment-147 Michelle Vandepas Wed, 15 Nov 2006 15:14:09 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/15/the-1960s-the-girls-who-went-away-and-me-7#comment-147 Sandra, This is a powerful series you've written. I've actually been afraid to read the book...<br /> <br /> I Am SO sad for K's birthmom who loves K but just couldn't care for her... and I feel the emotion every time we visit... Regret, sadness.. hope...being happy for the life K has but still so much underneath it all.....<br /> <br /> Thaks for sharing your experience. I've got Digging to American here, and I've renewed it twice without reading it yet.... Maybe I'll start with that book.<br /> <br /> Sandra, This is a powerful series you’ve written. I’ve actually been afraid to read the book…

I Am SO sad for K’s birthmom who loves K but just couldn’t care for her… and I feel the emotion every time we visit… Regret, sadness.. hope…being happy for the life K has but still so much underneath it all…..

Thaks for sharing your experience. I’ve got Digging to American here, and I’ve renewed it twice without reading it yet…. Maybe I’ll start with that book.

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