Comments on: The “Are these your grandchildren?” invasion http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio Information for parents in their forties and beyond, considerations, information, adoption and parenting advice, health news and tips, adoption stories, support, links ... Mon, 15 Feb 2010 00:28:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: John http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-893 John Sat, 18 Aug 2007 06:57:51 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-893 Two thoughts. First, as a 'senior' you have certain additional rights, we are allowed to slip a little. If it feels better if the lady was brash and strident, then she was, you don't do reality checks with seniors. If they remember their kids names, its a good day. (As an older person, I can tell you kids don't take it well when you call them by the dog's name.) Second, a possible response is "They are actually my kids, they just look younger than they are". John Two thoughts. First, as a ’senior’ you have certain additional rights, we are allowed to slip a little. If it feels better if the lady was brash and strident, then she was, you don’t do reality checks with seniors. If they remember their kids names, its a good day. (As an older person, I can tell you kids don’t take it well when you call them by the dog’s name.) Second, a possible response is “They are actually my kids, they just look younger than they are”. John

]]> By: Lisa http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-895 Lisa Sat, 18 Aug 2007 01:37:08 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-895 I actually think questions of this type from adults are nosy and inappropriate. Would you ask someone that? Of course not.<br /> Lisa I actually think questions of this type from adults are nosy and inappropriate. Would you ask someone that? Of course not.
Lisa

]]> By: miriam http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-894 miriam Sat, 18 Aug 2007 01:21:19 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-894 People look so different within the same age ranges. My dad looks much younger than my mom (geeze, I hope she never reads here...) even though he's a couple years older. I think you've got it right about them keeping you young. And I have no doubt you'll have a sassy reply next time. Grrr. People look so different within the same age ranges. My dad looks much younger than my mom (geeze, I hope she never reads here…) even though he’s a couple years older. I think you’ve got it right about them keeping you young. And I have no doubt you’ll have a sassy reply next time. Grrr.

]]> By: soblessed http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-892 soblessed Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:49:35 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-892 Had the opposite experience. A good childhood friend of mine had a brother who was about six or seven years older than us, and I had occassion to speak with him when I was around 28. I hadn't seen him in literally 15 or so years and we WERE on the phone, but still I was floored when he said "So, what grade are you in now?". I was 28 with my Master's Degree plus and five years of experience under my belt. Oy. Some people just say things without really thinking....or so I told myself at the time! Had the opposite experience. A good childhood friend of mine had a brother who was about six or seven years older than us, and I had occassion to speak with him when I was around 28. I hadn’t seen him in literally 15 or so years and we WERE on the phone, but still I was floored when he said “So, what grade are you in now?”. I was 28 with my Master’s Degree plus and five years of experience under my belt. Oy. Some people just say things without really thinking….or so I told myself at the time!

]]> By: Julie Crowley http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-891 Julie Crowley Fri, 17 Aug 2007 17:59:08 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-891 Too Funny Sandra!<br /> <br /> The other day at a birthday party I had a young girl (preteen) ask me if she and my brother could go down to the pond...I looked at her completely confused, how did she know I had a brother, and better yet why was she bringing him up since he wasn't there? It then dawned on me that she was speaking about my adopted stepson. I told her he was my son, and then it was her who was left with the confused look! I thanked her for the compliment and sent her on her way. <br /> <br /> Isn't it funny when older parents are taken seriously simply because they are older, yet younger parents suffer the same fate! Apparently there is one age that is appropriate to raise children....anyone know what that is? LOL Too Funny Sandra!

The other day at a birthday party I had a young girl (preteen) ask me if she and my brother could go down to the pond…I looked at her completely confused, how did she know I had a brother, and better yet why was she bringing him up since he wasn’t there? It then dawned on me that she was speaking about my adopted stepson. I told her he was my son, and then it was her who was left with the confused look! I thanked her for the compliment and sent her on her way.

Isn’t it funny when older parents are taken seriously simply because they are older, yet younger parents suffer the same fate! Apparently there is one age that is appropriate to raise children….anyone know what that is? LOL

]]> By: kml1764 http://older-parent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio/comment-page-1#comment-890 kml1764 Fri, 17 Aug 2007 17:55:11 +0000 http://older-parent.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/the-are-these-your-grandchildren-invasio#comment-890 First a belated Happy Birthday!<br /> <br /> While it was invasive to you, I'm sure that it was an innocent remark from another. Since you said "geezer," I assume that the person was 80+ years old? They are in a different generation. As a Baby Boomer, yourself, it has become more common to see older parents, but from one of the previous generations, it isn't something that they can conceive of.<br /> <br /> Truth is, when you get closer to this person's age, you will not be the same. Having children around you will keep you more into youthful thinking. Don't let it bother you...with a big smile just say, no actually I am the mother.<br /> <br /> Kris First a belated Happy Birthday!

While it was invasive to you, I’m sure that it was an innocent remark from another. Since you said “geezer,” I assume that the person was 80+ years old? They are in a different generation. As a Baby Boomer, yourself, it has become more common to see older parents, but from one of the previous generations, it isn’t something that they can conceive of.

Truth is, when you get closer to this person’s age, you will not be the same. Having children around you will keep you more into youthful thinking. Don’t let it bother you…with a big smile just say, no actually I am the mother.

Kris

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