My friend Sue came to stay. We are great friends. The sort that you can see once in a while and pick up right where you left off.

The type of friend that you call once a year and ask for help, and she doesn’t need background, but can hone in and give exactly the right advice in perfect dialog without offending.

She was only here for one night, but boy, did we do it right. She drove in from lands far and wide and we ditched the kids, (2½ year old K and 5 year old foster son, Ricky. ok, ok, I didn't really ditch them, just left them with hubby)...... and we went first, to an art opening, and then out for appetizer and wine out on the patio of a great restaurant.

We talked and laughed and got caught up. I heard about her children - all grown, and she about mine. And about me, starting my family in my mid - late forties.

In the hour or so from when she arrived, until we hubby came home from work, (and we left) she witnessed me chase, run, yell, hug, kiss, reward, scream, play and scold. As moms we do a lot in an hour. In just a few minutes of being at my house I felt exhausted looking at my life through her eyes.

But I’m afraid to say that it made me feel old watching myself through her. Am I too old to have a boy?

People, (I don’t know who they are offhand, but I’ve heard about them), say that boys are harder in the first few years, but easier as they grow. Girls are easy the first few years, and then really really hard as they hit teenage years. I believe it. I know I was hard when I hit my teenage years.

I’ve always wanted a boy. But now I know you have to chase them. Run fast. Play harder. Scold harder. Be firm. Be loving. It’s having a girl x five.

Do I want to try to adopt a boy, now? At forty seven almost forty eight years old?

I thought I did. Maybe two girls would be easier.

Maybe I’ll call Sue and ask her what she thinks. I know that she’s happy for me, even though she is in a different part of her life. She can still relate. Maybe she’ll give me great advice.

What about you? Any other ‘older moms’ out there with younger boys?

( To learn more about my kids, I write about my wanted to adopt foster children and foster adopt child on my other blog, http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/)